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You Are Fat, I Thought You Should Know

Last week when presenting at Hou.Sec.Con the first question asked to me was “How do you tell your partner or spouse they are fat and need to lose weight.” I admit to laughing as did most other people in the room.

My response was simple. “You don’t.” 

Everyone Is Different

I know several people that have experienced the weight-loss rollercoaster. Some people have had surgery to drop the pounds, while others have paid for a “medically supervised weight loss” program, where they eat less than 1,000 calories a day and need the doctor to provide missing nutrients. More commonly, many people join a weight loss program or follow a fad.

The Results?

The majority – not surprisingly – fail to keep the weight off long term. The people that have completed the weight loss surgery, while lighter, fail to actually eat better. So, while they might be down significantly in weight and probably no longer dealing with health issues such as heart disease and diabetes, they have failed to take control of their eating habits. For people that join weight loss programs or jump on a weight loss fad, they might push through the program to lose the weight, but as soon as the weight is off, they go back to old habits and the weight returns.

The Fix?

There isn’t a fix. Simply put, people aren’t born obese. People also don’t suddenly wake up obese. Something has happened or is going on in their life that has led them to the lifestyle they are living. So, if someone is obese, it is not your place to tell them. When it comes to lifestyle choices, it is up to the person affected to recognize the problem and commit to change it. 

Historically Speaking

I was probably 14 the first time I was told by a boy that I was fat. The problem? I actually wasn’t heavy back then. As I went through college, my weight crept up and as soon as I started sitting in an office, the weight kept coming. My grandfather told me in my twenties that I was fat. He was almost 90 at the time and thought nothing of his words.

What actually worked for me? I think it was a combination of things. Mainly being frustrated with work. I needed an outlet, so I started going to the gym. My trainer time was my disconnection. My nutrition reconstruction was something I could control. Something I wasn’t getting with my job/career.

As we all know, losing weight is easy. Just ask someone that has never had to lose it!

Keli Hay is a certified personal trainer using her weight loss success to help others.

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Riding a Rollercoaster

I know I am not alone in describing the emotional toll of health and medical diagnoses as a mental rollercoaster. While I know that my weight loss has resulted in no more plantar fasciitis, no more monthly cycle irregularities, and no more weight-related aches, I have always had other issues. Issues that no doctor has ever taken the time to properly diagnose. This past week, I went from a high of happiness knowing that my weight loss reversed another ailment, to a low of being diagnosed with something that I have probably had my entire life.

The Thyroid Problem Symptoms

Since I started puberty at the age of 14, my cycles have been irregular. My weight didn’t really start creeping up until my early to mid twenties. Pretty much every year of my life I have had a women’s wellness exam where I articulated to my doctor that I was irregular with severe cramping and heavy flow. How irregular? I was going 3-8 weeks between cycles with one instance of a 9 month gap and no resulting baby. 

Doctor Timeline

In 2006, a doctor assumed thyroid issues which were confirmed with the TSH blood work. I was prescribed Synthroid and dismissed. While the medicine helped me mentally – because I had been an emotional nightmare – none of my other symptoms changed. I continued to be irregular to the point where we were buying pregnancy tests a few times a year because I was “late” and there might be a chance.

In 2012, my husband and I decided to pursue fertility options while still in Canada. They did the standard blood work – cholesterol, chicken pox, STDs, and other variables that might affect a healthy pregnancy as well as checking if I ovulated every month. The results – I wasn’t ovulating regularly. While I was bleeding, I wasn’t always releasing an egg. My full menstrual history was revisited and the cure was a prescription for Clomid with monthly blood work to see if it triggered ovulation. Eventually they found the right dosage for ovulation, but nothing took. We moved to the states and put babies on hold.

In 2013, after moving to the US, a doctor felt nodules on my thyroid and the referrals began. In under 24 hours, I knew the nodules were not cancerous, so I was to simply continue on Synthroid. My other symptoms continued.

Almost 30 Years Later

In March 2019, I finally got to see an endocrinologist who sent me for a new thyroid ultrasound. The discovery? My nodules were gone! My weight loss and healthier lifestyle made them disappear! I was ecstatic! Could I stop taking Synthroid? Had I completely reversed everything my obesity had created? On Friday, March 29th, the morning before my Bsides Austin presentation, I received the news. I have been diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease.

Working on a new goal

The Effect on Me

While I know I am not dying, this has hit me hard. I have been struggling to understand why it took into my 40s for a doctor to finally listen, pay attention to my symptoms, and dig further. In addition to always knowing I had something else going on with my body, I have been dealing with pressures – internal and external influences – of having children. Married since 2003, the pressures and assumptions that I would produce children started from the engagement in 2001. Ever since we got married, we always just figured it would happen.

Now that I finally know there is something else going on with me, I am hoping I can move on and continue focusing on me physically. I actually feel like there is some closure, but I think I will always be a little upset. Upset at the possibility that an earlier diagnosis might have made a difference earlier in my life. Upset that no doctor listened. Upset that it took so long to finally know more.

I am now simply hoping that there is nothing else going on. Hoping that cancer and other family illnesses never come in to play. Hoping I can completely let go and move on.

Keli Hay is a certified personal trainer using her weight loss success to help others.

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Giving Back to InfoSec

In addition to my exciting work news from last week, I am very happy to share that I have some upcoming speaking engagements at local security conferences. While you are probably wondering why I am submitting and presenting at these conferences, for me the decision is obvious. After working in the InfoSec space for almost 20 years and watching friends struggle with mental and physical health, I want to give back. 

Working for a Living

Working for a Living is a presentation allowing me to share my journey, talk about the importance of nutrition and exercise, and talk about the importance of self. My goal in these presentations is for at least one person to walk away with a purpose, some goals, and a plan. A purpose, goals, and a plan to put themselves first – mentally and physically.

Security Bsides Austin

On Friday, March 29th at 2pm, I am presenting at Security Bsides in Austin.
Commons Learning Center on the J.J. Pickle Research Campus at The University of Texas at Austin:
10100 Burnet Road
Bldg 137

HouSecCon 2019

On April 9th or 10th, you will find me down in Houston at the Marriott Marquis Houston for HouSecCon 2019.

If you happen to be in Austin or Houston during these conferences, please stop in. I will be sharing tips and tricks from previous blog posts, such as how Certified Personal Trainers Do More Than Lift and How to Eat Healthy on a Budget.

If you would like to connect with me while in town, I can be reached at (512) 710-7773 | keli@kelihay.com

Keli Hay is a certified personal trainer using her weight loss success to help others.

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Austin is Looking Tight, Tired, and Sore

How you doin in Austin? Tight from sitting too much during the day? Tired of the same routine? Sore from…be honest, you don’t really know why you are sore.

You Are in Luck Austin

My name is Keli – pronounced Kelly – and I recently moved to Austin to help you! Who am I and what makes me so special?

Some more tidbits about me…

  • I am a recovering tech worker who gained a lot of weight working 40+ hour weeks, travelling 2+ hour daily commutes, and doing nothing outside of work.
  • Sports – I love almost every sport. Never been a soccer fan, but hockey, rugby, football, baseball, curling, and basketball I could watch all day.
  • I also love to help people move and feel better. I really do! If you want to touch your toes, lift more weights, drop some weight off your body, more easily do up your shoes, or simply balance on one foot for an entire minute – I can help you!

If you have been thinking about moving more or losing weight because a doctor has recommended or because you simply feel it, call me. I am located in The Domain area of North Austin, but can come to you.

What’s the Deal?

Our initial session is always free. Why? I want to meet with you so that I can hear from you, watch you move, and get to know you. Assuming all goes well, I offer various monthly packages to work with you. What does a session get you? The specifics of each session varies per person because they are tailored to personal goals and movements. Regardless of your goal, I offer nutritional guidance, exercise homework/supportive movements, and motivation to keep improving.

For more about me, read up!

Stop the excuses and contact me at 512-710-7773 or keli@kelihay.com

Keli Hay is a certified personal trainer using her weight loss success to help others.

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